Relationship Tips From The Couples Workshop

  Emotional Flooding – Know What It Is And How To Manage It Emotional flooding is a term created by Dr. John Gottman to describe the physiological and psychological reaction that happens when we are experiencing a high level of anxiety. It is when you are feeling overwhelmed during conflict. When you are flooded effective communication becomes extremely difficult as it is nearly impossible to have a valuable conversation focused on solving the problem. Let’s figure out how to deal with being flooded to create valuable conversations in times of distress.  When It Happens So you’re arguing with your partner. Things are starting to escalate and then bam, your partner says something that brings you to your knees. Your brain might go numb or it might be heated. On your metaphorical knees, you only hear things that feed your anger, hurt, fear, or anxiety instead of creating a potential solution.  To know if you experience emotional flooding, respond to these statements with a t...

  How To Be More Sexually Active Perhaps you have a wonderful friendship with your partner and have a strong bond together; however, you’re also looking to spice up your sexual chemistry. In general, intimacy needs dedication to thrive, and that is true for intimacy inside and outside of the bedroom (more information about increasing intimacy here). This post will target what you can do to have more satisfaction from your sex life.  Living a healthy lifestyle has tremendous impacts on every avenue in our lives! To help illustrate this point, I’d like you to think about your holiday traditions. Perhaps, you wake up on a holiday to work knowing you have a big meal ahead of you. Then you meet up with loved ones – perhaps have some wine with dinner. Speaking of dinner, it’s likely some kind of traditional comfort food that may be heavier than your average meal. Then there’s dessert. From all this food, you likely won’t sleep well. Then you wake up groggy and feel sluggish in your ...

  When you are experiencing high stress often, you need to focus on how to relieve stress. This is an appropriate time to evaluate your self-care – What is going well, what can go better, and  what specific activities  can you do when you are experiencing a high level of stress? What does stress do to our body? When we are stressed, our brains produce adrenaline. This makes our blood pressure go up, our breathing accelerates, and we don’t digest food regularly. Our bodies also do this when we go into a fight, flight, or freeze response. It makes our bodies ready for action. This is helpful in an emergency; however, it is not helpful when we are experiencing this regularly as we may then experience regular headaches, insomnia, stomachaches, and an overall lower immune system. What is “Self-Care”? Self-care is taking deep care of yourself on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level. Good self-care is a challenge for many people and yet with proper planning and understandi...

  “The problem with life is, by the time you can read women like a book, your library card has expired” – Milton Berle. I wanted to start this blog off with some humor because many men talk about feeling overwhelmed with the differences between men and women. I hope this blog gives you some actions to try to connect with a woman in your life. First, I cannot wave a magic wand and give you the information you need to understand  all  women – why? Because all women are unique. Instead, let’s learn how you can be more connected to  your partner . That’s what matters most of all. Can she trust you? According to the Gottman Institute’s research: the highest need that women are looking for in a partner is their body. Wait, no…. it’s their fancy jobs and income…. No: It’s trust! Above all women want to trust you completely and for you to find trust in them. Trust isn’t solely built based on the length of time together, so even if you are in a long-term relationship you need...

  It does not take vacation getaways or big fancy dates to build a positive relationship. At the same time, it does not  just happen . Relationship Advice: You must put in the work to build this connection. It takes little bits to build up over time. Thankfully, this means you can make positive impacts in your relationship by making the smallest of changes. Here are some realistic small tips for building positive and healthy relationships. Your Intent.  Yes, the small things add up, but they do need to be thoughtful. The intent and thoughtfulness behind your actions help create trust, intimacy, and satisfaction within your relationship. These can be used to repair something that went wrong as well as maintain the strengths of your relationship when the intent is put in place. Starting Your Workday .  3 Minutes Per Day. Before you start your day, take a couple of minutes to be with your partner. Under 5 minutes works just fine for this. Maybe you make your coffee toge...