Name It And Blame It: Protecting Your Relationship

 Are you protecting your relationship? When times are great, your relationship is strong, and can handle some hurtles now and then. When times are hard, your relationship is feeling run down after jumping over more and more hurtles. Protect your relationship. One way to do so is what I call: Name It and Blame It.


Name It:

Name the problem so it isn’t you, or your partner, or your relationship. Name IT. If the household is dirty and you are feeling overwhelmed, name the problem: the dirty dishes, the carpet, yard work, etc. Perhaps the end of the year is coming and your business is swamped, if that stress is overwhelming and you are taking it home: name the problem: work stress, or end of year, etc. 

Blame it:

When you name something outside of your relationship, you are protecting your relationship. It also blames the situation in your life that is truly at fault. At the core of your stress, do you have something else going on? It isn’t your relationship’s fault, it is _________’s fault. 

It is not your partner’s fault the dirty dishes aren’t done > It’s “end of year’s” fault the dirty dishes aren’t done.

Maybe it’s:

> Your kid’s new crazy soccer tournament schedule’s fault.

> Not enough sleep’s fault.

> The lazy coworker’s fault.

> COVID-19’s fault.

Even if you can’t think of what to blame, just say “It must be something else”.

The point here is to protect your relationship by acknowledging the other stressors in your life. It’s more than just your relationship. Blaming something else makes it easier to talk about and find a way to move forward. 

What stress do you have in your life that is really at blame instead of your relationship?

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In my blog, I delve into the nuances of communication, understanding, and empathy that are essential for a healthy relationship. You’ll discover unique ways to show appreciation, how to effectively resolve conflicts, and the art of listening – all fundamental aspects of Protecting Your Relationship. Whether it’s advice on managing stress together or ideas for keeping the romance alive, there’s something for everyone.

Remember, building a positive and enduring relationship doesn’t happen overnight. It requires consistent effort, understanding, and patience. My aim is to provide you with the tools and knowledge to make this journey smoother and more fulfilling. Together, let’s explore the many facets of love and partnership, turning challenges into opportunities for growth and deeper connection.




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